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Expectations in Marriage
In this post we feature some extracts from a homily by Bishop Anthony Taylor of the Diocese of Little Rock, Arkansas. Read the full article: here Expectations and Happiness Happiness is determined by our expectations and our ability to notice and rejoice in little things. If our expectations are modest, life will usually exceed our…
Read MoreThree Things I Wish I Knew Before We Got Married
The benefit of hindsight! There’s not a couple on earth who doesn’t have some words of wisdom about marriage to share with the young. I came across this on Facebook and was immediately impressed with insights articulated by this newlywed husband. We hope the SmartLoving community will find it helpful, and we’d love to hear what…
Read MoreGratitude: The Heart-beat of Love
New research validates age-old wisdom: the simple habit of gratitude can transform a jaded marriage into a joyous encounter. By Marilyn Rodrigues A University of North Carolina study released last month highlighted the association of gratitude with a happy marriage. Cameron Gordon, the study’s lead author, said that the goodwill generated by grateful spouses creates…
Read MoreSong of Songs Explained
Get in touch with one of the greatest love songs of all time – the Book of the Song of Songs in the Old Testament. Written as a poetic dialogue between the bride, the bridegroom and a chorus, this series of erotic love poems speak of the raptures of being in love. Some translations (eg…
Read MoreMonogamy is Supernatural
I came across blogger Matt Walsh and was captured with his bold articles. Here’s a great one on monogamy and marriage. His response to the frustrated professor’s letter below will leave you cheering. Matt’s point is that monogamy is not UNnatural – it’s SUPERnatural. Read the original letter and Matt’s response below! http://staging.smartloving.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/2020-Feb4-Monogamy-PT-200×300.png For Matt’s…
Read MoreHow Often Do Men Need to Have Sex?
Shaunti Feldhahn is an author and social researcher who specialises in marital relationships. In this article she responds to a question from a female reader about how often men need sex: “Even though I can go weeks or months and not miss it, he says he wants me to want it like he does.” Shaunti…
Read MoreIn Marriage, Big Boxes Can Be Trouble
Humour is an indespensible asset in a marriage. This week we feature an exerpt from this very funny story by Cindy Chupack in the NY Times. Click the link to read the full article and view an animated interview by the author and her husband. In any marriage, even the best marriage, there will come…
Read MoreThe Benefits of Marrying in your Mid-to-late 20s
W. Brad Wilcox | Washington Post | Full article: here These days, 20something marriage has gotten a reputation for being a bad idea. That’s partly because parents, peers, and the popular culture encourage young adults to treat their twenties as a decade for exploration and getting one’s ducks in a row, not for settling down.…
Read MoreHow to slow down in an accelerating world
Try losing time with those you love, so says Massimo Introvigne on Mercatornet. Read the full article: here Why are we so busy? After all, our cars move faster and our emails go faster than snail mail ever did. We ought to have lots of time to spare. Massimo: Sociologists call it the paradox of…
Read MoreLove is a Dance
Dr Sue Johnson is a renowned therapist and specialist in attachment theory. For more articles, visit: http://www.drsuejohnson.com/ There are only so many dances in a love relationship. The happier we are, the more fluid and varied the dance with our partner is. We feel safe together so we improvise and play. But do you notice that, when…
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