Spirituality
A Source of Grace
“Give way to one another out of reverence for Christ” Eph 5:21 St Paul’s letter to the Ephesians paints a vision of husband and wife tenderly giving themselves to each other in total self-donation. Husband and wife desire to communicate God’s life-giving love to the other through their own love. They are inspired to love…
Read MoreFriends To Call On
When couples experience difficulties… ..in their marriage and doubts about their spouse, they often feel very alone and unsupported. The friends and family who were so active and involved when they were celebrating their wedding tend to ‘mind their own business’ and try not to interfere when the relationship begins to dissolve. This comes from…
Read MoreSpiritual Intimacy
It is often difficult for a couple to share their personal faith experiences with each other. This is so for couples of different faith traditions, but is also true even if they are of the same religion. We are trained to avoid talking about religion in polite company because this topic is laden with strong…
Read MoreMarriage or Matrimony?
Are you getting married ‘in the Church’ or simply ‘at a church’? People call a lot of things ‘marriage’. Everything from heterosexual cohabitation (common law marriage) to civil contracts (secular marriage) to the Judeo-Christian concept of covenant. In a Christian marriage there is a desire for the marriage to be open to the Lord and…
Read MoreA Vision For Life and Love
In our society there is a strong culture of self-entitlement when it comes to sex. Society tells us that sex is about our individual personal fulfilment and that sexual satisfaction is our right. Rather than helping couples develop deeply intimate and meaningful intimacy, these attitudes lead them into selfish and often disordered sex lives. Scripture…
Read MoreThe Language of the Body
A sacrament makes visible in a human way something that is invisible or spiritual. In other words, a sacrament images and reveals the mystery of God. Every sacrament has two key aspects which make the sacrament visible: words and gesture (or matter and form in the more technical language of the Church). In marriage, the…
Read MoreSacred Body Language
When sex is approached as a way to communicate your desire to be one in marriage, it is an exciting and thrilling experience. With heightened awareness of the meaning and the message of each look or touch, you will be more fully present and can open yourselves to loving and being loved at a deeper…
Read MoreThe Message of Intercourse
When a couple wants to give themselves completely to one another, nakedness communicates that kind of extraordinary generosity and openness. It says: “I give you my whole self and I accept you in full knowledge of who you are” Once you are ready to say: “I love you permanently and totally”, it is natural to…
Read MoreThe Body As A Theology
Actions are far more powerful than words. Every look or touch can communicate clear messages that reveal your attraction and your desire to be for the other. As those messages grow more generous and committed, so too does the corresponding body language. All love is based on truth and sincerity. In the love between a…
Read MoreSex As Communion
Sex is something we ‘say’, not something we ‘do’. It is the most intimate communion between a man and woman and is so much more than just a physical activity and yet almost everything around us – movies, magazines, books, even your friends and relatives-approach sex as something we ‘do’. Most people never question this…
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